[SPARK-18817][SPARKR][SQL] change derby log output to temp dir

## What changes were proposed in this pull request?

Passes R `tempdir()` (this is the R session temp dir, shared with other temp files/dirs) to JVM, set System.Property for derby home dir to move derby.log

## How was this patch tested?

Manually, unit tests

With this, these are relocated to under /tmp
```
# ls /tmp/RtmpG2M0cB/
derby.log
```
And they are removed automatically when the R session is ended.

Author: Felix Cheung <felixcheung_m@hotmail.com>

Closes #16330 from felixcheung/rderby.