[SPARK-3329][SQL] Don't depend on Hive SET pair ordering in tests.

This fixes some possible spurious test failures in `HiveQuerySuite` by comparing sets of key-value pairs as sets, rather than as lists.

Author: William Benton <willb@redhat.com>
Author: Aaron Davidson <aaron@databricks.com>

Closes #2220 from willb/spark-3329 and squashes the following commits:

3b3e205 [William Benton] Collapse collectResults case match in HiveQuerySuite
6525d8e [William Benton] Handle cases where SET returns Rows of (single) strings
cf11b0e [Aaron Davidson] Fix flakey HiveQuerySuite test